At knytte sig til barnet i maven
Tilknytningen mellem forælder og barn er et stærkt psykologisk bånd, som er dybt forankret i os mennesker. For barnet er tilknytningen vigtig for at overleve. Barnets medfødte evne til kontakt vækker forældrenes omsorgsinstinkt, så de bliver indstillet på at beskytte barnet på alle måder, både fysisk og psykisk.
Therefore, it's early parenthood to be emotionally open and responsive to these signals. The connection to the child is already made during pregnancy When the attachment to the child is so important, built the usually at future parents already during pregnancy. If you relate to the child, already when it is in the stomach, you emotionally prepared directly after birth. Even while we await a child, we think of being parents and get acquainted with our child. Often it happens unconsciously. We fantasize about the child, we wait, and child in our thoughts is often several months old, sometimes a few years. The child gets as both the exterior and interior features according to our own wishes and experience. The internal images and thoughts will be more when we notice that the baby begins to move when the child moves in the stomach, coming in touch right, and the child becomes real on a new way. It is now natural to concentrate on what is happening there. We suggest the child's daily rhythm and learn its movements to know, such as can be perceived as powerful or cautious. When we learned the child's pattern of movement to know , we begin to imagine the child's temperament and incipient personality: "This little lady has an incredible energy and is never quiet. She is moving around the clock, so one can imagine how the pace is when she first comes out! " The more personal the child feels in the stomach, the stronger the ties Parents learn gradually the child's characteristics and habits of the stomach to know. "She's so lively late at night, a real night owl. It's just good, for I myself am a B-person. She and I may have it really cozy in the evening, when she grows older. Now start also a direct communication with the child. We talk to the child, either out loud or in mind. First, to disseminate small everyday comments like: "Sweet friend, kicks not so much because I want to sleep now" and partly to talk about feelings, "If you knew how happy I am that you have become." The thoughts of the child affects us and arouses most emotions of caring and joy They are important building blocks of the association and helps us to prepare ourselves to be parents. Throughout the pregnancy, we are aware of how the child is doing. When the baby moves, we imagine how it has it in there, and we notice the change. Signs that the baby is not feeling well, arouses anxiety and compassion, and we feel a need to understand and to help. We learn what kind of food or the activities that affect the child negatively and avoid them. Caring for the baby are doing well there in the stomach, is an important part in the development of attaching itself to the child. When birth is approaching, so pales fantasies, and we are quite concerned that we are about to give birth. When the baby is born, developed parenthood on in interaction with the child , our thoughts and ideas of the child has had a great impact and made us ready to meet newborn child. The foundation stone for contact with the child is placed. Children, as we partially know, but we have not seen, and who expect us to engage and learn to know it. When the child is born , filled thoughts and fantasies again on the child who we meet, and parenthood are developed further in togetherness and interaction with the child. Margareta Brodén Child Psychologist